Introspection

Working on our relationships with our loved ones, starts with our own inner work..

When I was younger , I didn’t take the time to sit with my emotions and wonder why I was feeling the way I did, or why I acted the way I did … I always blamed the situations/external circumstances for how I was feeling at the moment and to justify my actions…. Who can blame me… I was never taught otherwise…

For example, It was easy to blame the other person for raising their voice at you, you feeling attacked and then justifying your reactions and behaviors with their behavior…

As an adult, I started to pay attention to my not so good feelings and started to ask myself questions… If I were to die tomorrow, how would I be remembered by my children, by others? will they say I was… Loving? Kind? Moody?Mean?There for them? A good listener? Etc… And my answer was always…I wanted them to remember me as a good person, there for them, best mom ever, in every way. Since the moment I asked that question, I knew that I needed to make each day count and be committed to improving myself daily, to be a better person and mother.

It’s never perfect, but I am always trying my best….. When I feel frustrated or angry at one of my kids or maybe I just had a disagreement with one of them and I didn’t like how it ended… I often pause and notice my feelings and ask how I can do better next time. Also, if I feel that I was wrong in a situation or I raised my voice or I didn’t handle it how I wanted it… I will make sure I apologize to my kids for my mistake. Being vulnerable and showing that I am human and learning, is important in my inner growth and my connection with my children and others.

Therefore, with the right mindset of wanting to positively change and paying attention to our thoughts and feelings will lead you to the right direction of self awareness and growth ….